there are approximately 1,013,913 words in the english language but i could never string any of them together to explain how much i want to hit you with a chair.
I’ve been reading a lot on things that are positives and negatives of parenting; obviously solely based on experience or opinion. Just now, I read about the positives and negatives of sleep training, and the one that caught my eye was "don’t nurse your baby to sleep".
So, here’s my problem… I agree with people voicing their opinions and experiences, because I know they are trying to help other people, but I also feel almost offended. In the same article, it says that baby’s personalities affect their sleeping habits. Noah and I would nurse to sleep every night when he was still nursing… it was for both comfort and hunger, and it was okay because it was comfortable for both of us. I appreciate the advice, but at the same time, don’t tell me how to parent.
Noah is an amazing baby. He sleeps from 9 at night until 8-9 am, and then usually naps about an hour later again for an hour or two. Numerous, actually, all things that people say don’t relate to every baby, because everyone is different. Every adult, teenager, child, toddler, and baby, every single living entity, is different.
As a frustrated mother, I will give you the only advice that ever helped me learn to get control of my life as a parent: get to know your baby; his likes, dislikes, cues, and everything else. Since receiving this advice, I get hours of sleep every night, even though Noah wakes up a few times a night to eat, I have time to make dinner, spend time with my love, and live my life comfortably… I even have time to blog, occasionally.
He is manageable when being watched by someone else, even if it’s only family, because they follow the same “rules” I do, and they have learned his cues too. (It’s only my family who watches him), and so he doesn’t cry, he doesn’t ever go to bed and scream, I’ve never had a night, EVER, even from the very first night he slept in his own crib, and we went from co-sleeping to sleeping alone all at once; I have never had a night where he yelled for more than 5 minutes.
I understand, I got lucky, he is a very happy baby, and he is very low-maintenance and independent, but everyone’s lives can be a little easier, if we stop reading things online and just listen to our babies! Parenting isn’t always easy- in fact it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to readjust to, especially being so young, but if I can manage my life and not want to tear my hair out, you can too! Parenting, when done right, comes to you naturally. People say that "babies don’t come with a how-to guide", but I disagree, babies are our how-to guides; just like you, nobody knows what they want more than them, just let them tell you!
Life’s crazy, having had my son! I won’t say no time, because I’ve got a lot of time, but no drive or desire to jump on tumblr during his naps to update you guys- sorry! I’ll try harder from now on!
I’ve yet to tell my birthing story (that’ll be started promptly after this post… and after I bake my cookies! xo) and I’ve just been tired. Not that I don’t sleep, because not to brag, but Noah has been sleeping through the night since he was a month old… he sleeps until anywhere from 11 am to 2 pm… but he does stay up a little longer than most- he goes to sleep around 1030 or 11, usually… but sometimes not until 12. Not too big of a deal- he’s on my schedule!
So, that’s really all. I’ve been trying to update my house piece by piece. Been taking awhile. Still yet to paint the baby room that got finished while I was in the hospital having Noah! Agh. But none the less, life is good! :)
I’ll try to update you guys more often (if anyone still cares) and if not for you, for me!
Anonymous said: since when are people "put under" for C-sections? Last I heard they have to be conscious?
I saw this and I have NO idea where you got the idea that people had to be put under? No, they often aren’t put under, but in fact sometimes they are. It depends, really, and doesn’t happen often. Personally I was just pumped full of freezing drugs and given oxygen.